Subject: Living Will
MY LIVING WILL
Last night, my friend and I were sitting in the living room and I said to her, 'I never want to live in a vegetative state, dependent on some machine and fluids from a bottle. If that ever happens, just pull the plug.'
She got up, unplugged the Computer, and threw out my wine.
She's such a bitch.....
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Subject: Living Will
Posted by Dot at 7:22 AM
Monday, August 25, 2008
Things around here have been ALL OF THE ABOVE. Not just one of them, but all of them. Never, ever say you are bored. I learned that lesson a long time ago. If I was to ever say that "I was bored" around my Dad, he would find something for me to do and I would be busy for hours.
Way back in March, my husband and I were talking about things that needed to be done around the house. Not things like laundry and picking up the toys and dusting. Things like replacing the carpet in our bedroom (that an iron was dropped on), repainting the bedroom (since we were thinking of tearing out the carpet), replacing the window in my daughter's room since that is rotting out. We came to the conclusion that we needed to call in reinforcements. I called my Dad! We picked a time when he was available and I booked his flight. April 3rd to April 15th. We were set, I was very happy to have him come out as we were not planning on going to see him and he was not planning on coming here because of the gas prices. The flight cost less than gas costs to drive here.
My husband and I start tearing apart the bedroom, we end up sleeping in the living room because we needed the floor completely empty to install wood.
My Dad arrived and we started working on the list. That Saturday, we were having lunch and hubby's older brother called to say that his Dad fell and can he come over. This was the start of a long few months of rehabilitation and deprivation, which in the whole scheme of things, was way to short of a time. From there to here went by in a flurry, but at the time, some of it seemed like it would never end.
My Dad's time here went by very fast. We didn't get to the list, only to the bedroom floor and walls. Hubby's Dad came here to live with us and rehabilitate. So we had 2 Dad's staying for about a week. We moved our stuff into the study and the study's stuff out into the living room. And hubby's Dad's stuff into our bedroom.
Caring for my husband's father was tough and chaotic and emotional and necessary and busy, but it is something I would never hesitate to do. I wish I could say he had a zest for life, but sadly, I cannot. In the end, that is what got him, a failure to thrive. He simply did not want to live anymore. He spend the last 18 years living without his wife. The friends he had were neighbors and they started to get sick and move away (either with family or into a nursing home). We started asking him to move in with us 10 years ago. My only regret is that he didn't move in sooner.
He was with us for 8 weeks when he got too sick and we took him to the doctors. She immediately put him in the hospital for dehydration. He was to be in for 24-48 hours. After the first day, they realized that he was not going to be well enough to come back home. It took 10 days in the short-stay portion of the hospital for them to find a place for him. He ended up in a hospice facility. It was a great place full of great people who really cared for him. They said it would take 7-10 days for him to pass. He was coherent and refusing any nourishment. The first 7 days were gruelling. My hubby was off work because he wanted to be there for his dad. His other 2 brothers were there too. After that first week my hubby and the one brother HAD to return to work. My hubby would go to the nursing home before work and after work. Sleep was negligent. His brother worked 3 hours away, he returned to work on Wednesday and came back Saturday night at about 9 pm. The oldest brother, who does not work, was in when the the other 2 couldn't be. 16 days after he entered the hospice facility, he passed. It was Sunday June 22nd. The day before, everyone had the chance to talk to him - he was still answering questions with hand gestures. You could tell he could understand everything you were saying.
God bless him and may he be at peace now.
Posted by Dot at 10:26 AM
I am blushing a bit now. My friend, Kristin has nominated me for a blog award.
Participation is optional, so I am going to optionally accept her award, but I am going to opt-out of passing it along. Only because I cannot pick just seven, like the rules say. Please check out my blog-roll in my sidebar. Those are the people I read on a daily basis (whether or not they post daily). They are in alphabetical order so I do not have to put them in order!!!
Thank you Kristin for thinking of me!!!!
Posted by Dot at 9:38 AM
Monday, July 28, 2008
The committal service was very nice. The National Cemetery where my Father-in-law is buried is a very peaceful and beautiful place. This is a sample of his headstone.
He was in the army and served in WWII. I sure hope he is at peace now, as that is what he wanted. I did not read the poem I wanted to, but I did read from Eccelesiates. My sister-in-law and I shared the reading.
The weather was beautiful and all in all it was a nice day. Thank you to everyone who said a prayer for my Father-in-law. They are very much appreciated.
Posted by Dot at 9:00 AM
Monday, July 07, 2008
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.
Mary Elizabeth Frye (1905-2004)
Posted by Dot at 9:39 AM
Friday, May 16, 2008
From Paula @ full of life
You're One Hundred Years of Solitude!
by Gabriel Garcia Marquez
Lonely and struggling, you've been around for a very long time. Conflict has filled most of your life and torn apart nearly everyone you know. Yet there is something majestic and even epic about your presence in the world. You love life all the more for having seen its decimation. After all, it takes a village.
Take the Book Quiz
at the Blue Pyramid.
Posted by Dot at 8:48 AM
Mother's Day is always a special day. A day of enjoyement, relaxation, celebration and family gathering. For me, it always has a bit of sadness too. Not only is my mother gone, but my husband's mother is gone too. Every year seems to get a little bit easier. This year was no exception. I posted on one of my boards some pictures of my mom. I want to share them here too!
I am about 1 here, my sister is in the background
This was in 1991
And a bonus picture of one of my presents
I hope everyone had a great day. Mine was low key and very pleasant.
Posted by Dot at 6:17 AM
Friday, May 02, 2008
What are gas prices in your area? I know they are high everywhere. Exxon Mobil just posted HISTORY MAKING PROFITS. What's up with that. The country is hitting a recession and we are being gouged at the pump. Exxon Mobil Corp., the world's largest publicly traded oil company, said Thursday record crude prices helped its first-quarter profit climb 17 percent to $10.9 billion the second biggest U.S. quarterly corporate profit ever.
I don't know about you, but that sure makes me want to stay home.
Interestingly enough, I received an email this morning with a link to MSN Autos that has a nifty tool that allows you to check out gas prices before you leave the house. Just enter your zip code in the site below, and it tells you which gas stations have the cheapest prices (and the highest) on gas in your zip code area. It's updated every evening!
Here is the link. Prices in my area are $3.50 for the low, $3.60 for the average and $3.69 for the high; but diesel prices are $4.25 - $4.40. The last time I filled up, I paid $4.25 for biodiesel and the truck has been sitting at the dealer for a week now, so I am saving money on gas, right?
Posted by Dot at 7:32 AM
Sunday, April 27, 2008
So much has been going on here. First - it is BASEBALL season!!! We have lots of running to do with 3 boys playing. My Father-in-law has come to live with us as he needs Assisted Living now. He had a fall and at the moment is recovering, but requires constant care, so my husband and I have been playing tag team in his care. All in all, I think he is doing well.
Here is a list, in pictures of what else we have been doing. And this is in no means a complete list!
Trying to pick a paint color:
Replacing Carpet with Wood (aka Going Green):
Spring has sprung:
The Cuteness is Astounding!!!
Posted by Dot at 8:50 AM
Friday, February 22, 2008
How many of you saw this on Tuesday night?
We did! We were in and out of the house, watching the moon go into a full eclipse - on my Birthday!!! How cool is that??? Well, cold is was for sure. The temperature was in the teens and dropping. That is why we were in and out of the house. It really was something to see.
Posted by Dot at 6:12 AM
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
I'm very happy that 40 is over. It is an age that lots of people dread. The stigma attached to being 40 is
overwhelming amazing astounding devastating exciting mind-boggling shattering staggering stunning vast eye-opening. I feel like I've spent the last year waiting for the other shoe to drop.
It has. Sort-of. My 16 year old son was just diagnosed with Juvenille Myoclonic Epilepsy. It sounds bad. It feels bad. But it really isn't. With medication, he should be able to live a seizure free life. Everything with him was up and down last year. First, he had a grand mal seizure, his only one ever. Then we had lots of testing with negative results. That felt good. It seemed like it was a fluke that he'd had the seizure. 40% of all people have 1 grand mal in their lifetime. The doctor thought that it was probable that he'd never have another one. Then he was having some mild twitching. At first, it didn't seem like anything. Then it became more prominent, so off to the doctor we went. More testing. Results this time showed some slow wave activity indicating his seizure disorder. So now he just needs to be on the seizure medication to prevent a grand mal. And I will be purchasing a medic alert bracelet for him.
And that was my year of 40. Up. Down. Up. Down. Up. I'm working on keeping it up!
Posted by Dot at 6:16 AM
Monday, February 18, 2008
I am making a roast tonight for dinner. I wanted to document this so that I can redo it if it actually turns out good.
4 pound bottom round roast
cut up med onion and put in bottom of sprayed roasting pan
add 1 bay leaf and 1 tsp minced garlic
add 1 cup dry red wine
bring to a boil, then simmer - add roast continue to simmer
heat oven to 300 degrees
turn off stove-top and put in oven 3-4 hours
This was VERY good. Everyone liked it. I thought the gravy was outstanding, all I did was take out the onions. It wasn't super thick, but it was very yummy.
I would have taken pictures, but I had NO batteries for the camera.
Friday, February 15, 2008
|What American accent do you have? |
Your Result: The Inland North
|What American accent do you have?|
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Posted by Dot at 3:13 PM
Thursday, February 14, 2008
but it made me laugh so hard, I had to share!!!!
Toilet Cleaning Instructions:
1. Put both lids of the toilet up and add 1/8 cup of pet shampoo to the water in the bowl.
2. Pick up the cat and soothe him while you carry him towards the bathroom.
3. In one smooth movement, put the cat in the toilet and close both lids.
You may need to stand on the lid.
4. The cat will self agitate and make ample suds. Never mind the noises that come from the toilet, the cat is actually enjoying this.
5. Flush the toilet
three or four times. This provides a 'power-wash' and rinse'.
6. Have someone open the front door of your home. Be sure that there are no people between the bathroom and the front door.
7. Stand behind the toilet as far as you can, and quickly lift both lids.
8. The cat will rocket out of the toilet, streak through the bathroom, and run outside where he will dry himself off.
9. Both the commode and the cat will be sparkling clean
Posted by Dot at 6:54 AM
Monday, January 28, 2008
Joanne at A Piece of the Puzzle tagged me for this meme.
The rules for this meme are:
(1) Link to the person that tagged you.
(2) Post the rules on your blog.
(3) Share six non-important things/habits/quirks about yourself.
(4) Tag six random people at the end of your post by linking to their blogs.
(5) Let each random person know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their website.
1. I have to make my coffee the night before so that it brews just before I wake up.
2. I always load the dishwasher the same way, with specific cups having a specific place to go everytime.
3. I watch All My Children on ABC every day. And have for the last 26+ years!
4. I do laundry on Monday and Fridays and not usually in between.
5. I was a cheerleader all through High School for Football, Soccer, Basketball, and Wrestling.
6. I love Margaritas, on the rocks with salt.
I am going to tag the following 6 people.
5. Kim, and
6. My Sister.
Posted by Dot at 3:47 PM
Monday, January 14, 2008
At the beginning of the new year, everyone is full of resolutions. I am getting on the bandwagon and adding mine, albeit a little late.
My New Year's Resolution for 2008: TO GET HEALTHY
In order to do that, I have to
1. actually start exercising,
2. eat better, and
3. gasp not drink
at all so much.
1. I have worked out a total of 3 times this year. Last Monday, last Friday, and today.
2. I bought a book a while ago and have used it before, but I want to incorporate it more into my daily life. It has wonderful food selections and is not supplements, or starvation.
3. I had a glass of red wine with dinner on Sunday instead of a beer (hows that?)
My current weight is 151 lbs. (did I just type that?!?) My goal weight is somewhere in the 120's. I have no time frame in which I want to do this. Mostly because my goal is to be healthy. If I do 1, 2, and 3 the weight should come off!! So, wish me luck and I will update periodically on my progress!
Posted by Dot at 11:27 AM
Sunday, January 13, 2008
PHILOSOPHY OF HOUSECLEANING!
I don't do windows because ...
I love birds and
don't want one to run into a clean window
and get hurt.
I don't wax floors because ...
I am terrified a guest will slip and get hurt
then I'll feel terrible
( plus they may sue me.)
I don't mind the dust bunnies because ...
They are very good company,
I have named most of them,
and they agree with everything I say.
I don't disturb cobwebs because .
I want every creature to have a home of their own.
I don't Spring Clean because .
I love all the seasons
and don't want the others to get jealous
I don't pull weeds
in the garden because ..
I don't want to get
in God's way,
HE is an excellent designer!
I don't put things away because
will never be able to find them again.
I don't do gourmet meals
when I entertain because
I don't want my guests to
stress out over what to make when
they invite me
over for dinner.
I don't iron because ...
I choose to believe them
when they say "Permanent Press".
I don't stress much on anything because ...
"A Type" personalities die young and
I want to stick around
and become a wrinkled up crusty ol' woman!!!!
REMEMBER . . . .
Please share this humor with other important friends!
I found this over at Frontiernet.net
Posted by Dot at 1:08 PM
Thursday, January 10, 2008
I just came across this information and thought it was valuable enough to share. I am planning on seeing the show when it comes to my area. If you go to the website, you can find a showing close to you or you can get the DVD.
The Business of Being Born trailer
I am alarmed at some of the information I have come across. According to the CDC and the National Center for Health Statistics: The cesarean delivery rate rose again in 2006, to 31.1 percent of all births, a 3 percent increase from 2005 and a new record high. The percentage of all births delivered by cesarean has climbed 50 percent over the last decade.
Posted by Dot at 10:06 AM
Tuesday, January 01, 2008
Overview for Pisces
It's a good thing you're so adaptable, sweet Pisces, because the universe will continue throwing curveballs your way in 2008. Uranus, the planet of unexpected changes, will remain in your sign until 2011, opening the door to a whole new worldview. On a positive note, of all the signs, yours may be the most prepared to tear through the illusion of the current reality and see what lies beyond.
The only problem is, not everything will be immediately apparent to you. Several influences this year bring up issues surrounding secrets and hidden truths. Mercury's retrograde cycle from January 28 through February 18 will be a good time to go on a retreat or take a break from your usual routine. A solar eclipse on February 6 and a lunar eclipse on August 16 will both emphasize this theme of the unknown. Visiting someone in a hospital or other institution is a good way to discharge this energy -- and besides, you always feel good when you perform an act of service.
All these changes are affecting your relationships, but the good news is, you're feeling more centered and self-assured than ever before. That self-effacing pushover is nowhere to be found; instead, you're demanding what you deserve -- and it's getting harder for certain people in your life to meet your expectations. In the next couple of years, expect to do some major housecleaning in the realm of your friendships and other personal connections. Rest assured that any changes you make in these areas will be quickly rewarded.
Mercury's retrograde period from May 26 through June 18 urges you to contact your loved ones and family members. You could also use this energy to make some needed repairs in your home or bedroom. In August, pay particular attention to your health and your work environment, as the August 1 solar eclipse makes self-care crucial.
Love and Romance
There's no doubt about it, Pisces: In one way or another, you'll put a lot of energy into your relationships in 2008. The lunar eclipse on February 20 highlights your partnerships, focusing your attention on what you really want. This issue will come up again in May, when your love life will start moving forward after a period of doubt.
Mid-March launches a roller coaster ride of romantic action. Affectionate Venus and communicative Mercury move together into your sign, which usually signals a fun, flirtatious time -- but almost immediately, they encounter severe Saturn. Expect some sort of limitation to cool things down between you and your partner. At the very end of March, a highly exciting and disruptive influence enters the picture. You may be tempted to take a romantic risk or try something totally new and different in love.
Single Pisceans will see the most action from March 4 through May 19, when passionate Mars brings serious sizzle to your love connections. You'll see another spike a month later when Venus, the love planet, follows in Mars's ardent footsteps. These two periods offer your best opportunities to get out there and connect with someone new and special.
Coupled Pisceans are sure to enjoy themselves, too. Mars, the passion planet, spices things up starting July 2, but a week later, Saturn limits your ardor. But don't worry: You'll break through whatever has been holding you back on August 6. Just take care not to burn any bridges with your newfound assertiveness.
Mid-August brings limitations in love, Pisces, but you'll cast off this burden toward the end of the month. A New Moon on August 30 gives you the chance to redefine your relationship ideals. Early November could bring a conflict to a head between your personal growth and the status quo of a treasured relationship. This might occur on a very private level, but it's just as possible that it will happen in a broader, less personal way. Whatever happens, remember that it's just one step in a very important process.
Posted by Dot at 12:00 AM